What is he never compliments me but compliments others?

When someone frequently compliments others but rarely or never compliments you, it can be a perplexing and sometimes hurtful experience. Here are several potential reasons and considerations for this behavior:

  1. Personality Differences: Some people are naturally more reserved and may not express compliments openly, especially towards those they feel close to. They might assume you already know they appreciate you.

  2. Relationship Dynamics: The nature of your relationship might influence how compliments are given. Sometimes, in long-term relationships, people might take each other's positive traits for granted and stop verbalizing appreciation.

  3. Comfort Levels: The person might feel more comfortable or motivated to compliment strangers or acquaintances where there is less emotional risk or expectation involved.

  4. Perception of Your Needs: They might perceive you as secure or confident and think you don’t need validation, while they offer compliments to others who they perceive as needing more encouragement.

  5. Gratitude Expression Styles: People express gratitude and appreciation differently. Some might show it through actions rather than words, which might not always be recognized as compliments.

  6. Communication Issues: There might be underlying communication issues, where they don't realize the importance of verbal compliments to you, or they might not notice they're overlooking your needs for verbal affirmation.

  7. Jealousy or Insecurity: In some cases, they might refrain from complimenting you due to jealousy or insecurity, especially if they feel threatened by your abilities or achievements.

  8. Unspoken Resentments: If there are unresolved issues or resentment, it can manifest as a lack of positive reinforcement towards you.

  9. Cultural Factors: Cultural differences also play a role in how people express praise and appreciation.

If this behavior is impacting your relationship, it may be beneficial to have open and honest communication about how you feel. Expressing your need for verbal affirmation might help the other person become more aware of their behavior and adjust it accordingly.